No, you don't, but I respect that it's what you've decided to do, and it's not how things are, he's being a--look, I'm not your best friend, or your bedmate, or anything ( he vaguely gestures to his chest, like that makes it clear he means entanglements of the heart okay ) like that, but there's doing the unintentional stuff, and there's also being a jackass. The dating stuff, yeah, that's unintentional, but turning down a gift from you? Because I'm involved, and he's not sure if he has an issue with me? That is an unkindness he could have chosen not to act on in front of you.
( He waves his hand, though, because he's not calling out jackass for the dating comment--that's specific to saying the gift would be refused if Jingyi wasn't good enough, if his intentions weren't something Tidus understood, and that's what bothers him. The rest? Tidus is thick in his own needs for denial, and so Jingyi sighs. Long. So Help Him, Void. )
Which is what it is, but were you listening to what his complaint was? For a guy so sure he's not going to date here, he was real offended thinking I agreed that he shouldn't. The fact you'll never call him out on it won't make him face himself any sooner, but I get why you don't want to, when you've already lost enough.
( With a tone shift, just a touch, because no he's not deft at social things like this, but he's also not daft: )
And I would never tell him any of that, because you are my friend, and you want this, and you know you're hurting yourself, and you're adult enough to make all those decisions on your own. I won't judge it, I just... I want you to be happy. However you're getting that happiness, 'cause you're the only one who can decide on that for yourself.
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( He waves his hand, though, because he's not calling out jackass for the dating comment--that's specific to saying the gift would be refused if Jingyi wasn't good enough, if his intentions weren't something Tidus understood, and that's what bothers him. The rest? Tidus is thick in his own needs for denial, and so Jingyi sighs. Long. So Help Him, Void. )
Which is what it is, but were you listening to what his complaint was? For a guy so sure he's not going to date here, he was real offended thinking I agreed that he shouldn't. The fact you'll never call him out on it won't make him face himself any sooner, but I get why you don't want to, when you've already lost enough.
( With a tone shift, just a touch, because no he's not deft at social things like this, but he's also not daft: )
And I would never tell him any of that, because you are my friend, and you want this, and you know you're hurting yourself, and you're adult enough to make all those decisions on your own. I won't judge it, I just... I want you to be happy. However you're getting that happiness, 'cause you're the only one who can decide on that for yourself.